10 Honest Truths from a Therapist in Her 30s
Written by: Lauren Larkin, LMHC
As a therapist, people often assume I have it all figured out. And while I am deeply committed to my healing, growth, and self-awareness… I’m also human. I still carry insecurities, anxieties, and contradictions. I still have days where I overthink, doubt myself, or feel the weight of my past.
So, in the spirit of honesty, here are 10 very real things about me that I’m not ashamed to admit:
1) I went to residential & PHP & IOP programs for my eating disorder in my 20s. I wouldn’t be who I am today if I hadn’t.
2) I froze my eggs last year because I (really really) want to be a mom someday. I have a lot of fertility anxiety and fears knowing that I won’t be able to control that outcome until the time comes. I worry about the timeline while also not wanting to rush my life.
3) I sometimes think I’m pretty great and can feel proud of myself for how far I’ve come or what I’ve built and accomplished, and then one thing goes wrong and I’m automatically the worst.
4) I leave a lot of social interactions feeling awkward and overthinking everything I said. I question if I’m really as much of an extrovert as I think I am?
5) I can be really short and snappy and frustrated easily sometimes.
6) I feel guilty for not calling or visiting my grandparents more.
7) I encourage other people to rest and really mean it! But sometimes I don’t take my own advice.
8) As a kid I used to have anxiety attacks late at night about dying/heaven and if I think about it for too long now I can still go to the exact same headspace.
9) Big triggers I still carry are feeling like “I’m not good enough” and “I’m unlovable” deep down.
10) Although I love my life and career, I resent my mental health struggles for holding me back and I regret not sticking with my dream of singing/acting/performing from when I was younger. I sometimes wish I could live multiple lives and have a do-over.
Why I’m Sharing This
Because maybe you’ve felt some of these things too. Maybe you’ve wondered if you’re the only one. You’re not.
Being a therapist doesn’t make me immune to pain, insecurity, or longing. It makes me human—and it makes me deeply committed to holding space for yours.
If you’re looking for a therapist to talk about the big questions—like identity, purpose, fertility, anxiety, eating disorder recovery, or grief for the paths you didn’t take—we’d be honored to walk alongside you.
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Whether you’re navigating anxiety, identity questions, fertility decisions, or eating disorder recovery—therapy can help you make space for it all.
NYC’s LEL Therapy specializes in treating eating disorders and food / body image issues. We offer relationship therapy, whether that be couples therapy, navigating platonic relationships or familial relationships. We specialize in trauma therapy. And we treat anxiety and general mental health conditions. We would love to help you on your mental health journey.